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Peaceful Divorce with Shah & Kishore - maryland-lawoffice.com
Peaceful Divorce with Shah & Kishore - maryland-lawoffice.com
Shah & Kishore - Maryland Divorce Law Firm Concentrating in Family Law Matters such as Divorce, Family Mediation, Collaborative Divorce Child Custody, Child Support, Alimony, and Division of Marital Property. Our attorneys have obtained M.B.A's and Master's in Taxation along with law degrees which allow them to handle large asset based divorce cases successfully. Free Consultation Offered. Please call us now at: 301-715-3838 begin_of_the_skype_highlighting 301-715-3838 end_of_the_skype_h
Rockville,
MD,
United States
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03/03/2011
Mediation can help you minimize the financial and emotional costs of divorce -- despite the hurt, anger, and lack of trust that usually accompanies the breakdown of a marriage. Here are some of the most important keys to creating a peaceful divorce.
"We must pursue peaceful ends through peaceful means."
How is it possible to have a peaceful divorce when there is so much hurt, anger, and lack of trust? With the heartache of ending a marriage, how can you avoid the tremendous stress, pain, conflict escalation, and financial devastation of a courtroom battle? The key is to find a mediator whom you both can trust to educate you in the negotiation process, and to facilitate collaboration to resolve the conflict and create a satisfying settlement.
Effective Mediation Promotes Peace
"It isn't enough to talk about peace. One must believe in it. And it isn't enough to believe in it. One must work at it."
For both of you to feel comfortable in divorce mediation, you must have faith that the process will be fair and that your rights will be protected. You need to trust that your mediator has the negotiation skills, legal expertise, conflict management tools, sensitivity, and problem-solving ability to help you reach a mutually satisfying agreement in a peaceful way.
Here's what to ask when interviewing a mediator:
• Is the mediator an attorney with legal and mediation training? Will he/she educate both of you as to your legal rights and responsibilities before you begin to negotiate the issues so that you will make informed decisions?
• As a neutral third party, your attorney-mediator shouldn't give either of you legal advice, but will he/she explore legal options with both of you?
• Will the attorney-mediator prepare all the court documents and agreements, and give you the opportunity to review and receive advice from independent counsel before you sign?
• If the mediator is not also a lawyer, does he/she recommend that each of you retain a lawyer to inform you of your legal rights and obligations and to review all agreements before final signing of the settlement? Is he/she qualified to prepare the legal documents and agreements? If not, who will do so?
• Will you maintain control, so that you only sign when you are satisfied?
• To build trust, will your mediation sessions always include your spouse? Will you be allowed, however, to have an individual caucus by phone with your mediator if there is a sensitive issue to discuss?
• Will you and your spouse receive summary letters after each session documenting interim agreements?
• Will you be given clear tasks to perform to move forward in a timely manner?
• Will the mediator work at your pace to reduce stress?
• Does the mediator meet with you in a peaceful atmosphere? Is he or she serene and composed?
• How will the mediator make you feel comfortable?
• Will he or she enforce positive ground rules that require respectful behavior (i.e., no interrupting, no accusing, no yelling, etc.) so that both parties feel safe and secure?
• Does the mediator have you sign a confidentiality agreement to protect your privacy?
• Will the mediator balance the power so that one of you doesn't feel controlled or bullied by the other? What approach will the mediator use to empower you when you are fearful of asking for what you want?
• How will he/she deflect conflict and keep both of you focused on problem-solving instead of arguing?
• How will the mediator help both of you to honor your interim commitments as you move through the process?
• What will the mediator do to make sure that both parties fully disclose all issues and financial documents so that property can be divided fairly and support calculated correctly?
• How will the mediator deal with the intense emotions that are revealed in session? Will he/she listen effectively and help the parties to express their feelings to clear the air so that negotiations are enhanced and forgiveness can take place?
• How will the mediator deal with difficult issues that you don't understand, such as stock options, business evaluations, and retirement issues? Will he/she arrange for you to jointly agree to use neutral experts to assist you in making wise decisions?
• What tools does the mediator use to guide the parties to co-parent effectively?
• How does the mediator resolve emotionally charged child custody issues?
• What processes will the mediator use to help heal the family pain?
Once you have interviewed and chosen a mediator with whom both of are comfortable, you'll need to do some "peace" work yourself to prepare for the process. A skilled mediator will encourage you to take steps to ensure your serenity and success.
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Shah & Kishore - Maryland Divorce Law Firm Concentrating in Family Law Matters such as Divorce, Family Mediation, Collaborative Divorce Child Custody, Child Support, Alimony, and Division of Marital Property. Our attorneys have obtained M.B.A's and Master's in Taxation along with law degrees which allow them to handle large asset based divorce cases successfully. Free Consultation Offered. Please call us now at: 301-715-3838
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